I very rarely read the entertainment news but one headline caught my eye this week. There’s been a huge global outrage over a sweet photo posted on Instagram of fashion designer, Victoria Beckham kissing her daughter Harper on the lips with a happy birthday caption.
The comments on this photo and the onslaught of negativity and trolling on Victoria Beckham has been astounding. Many people have said that it is inappropriate to kiss your children on their mouths. They reason that it will cause them to be promiscuous later in life. They also say it will lead to confusion on what is proper behavior and that they would not understand boundaries as they got older.
I come from a long line of huggers and kissers
Last year a relative of my husband commented that I am “unnaturally affectionate” with my kids. It took me completely by surprise because in my opinion my behavior towards my kids is completely normal. I realized then that not everyone is that affectionate. Some people show affection in other ways than physically.
I come from a long line of huggers and kissers in my family. When I was younger and we visited family, it was normal to greet all your relatives with a hug or a kiss or even both. This is still is our way.
I realized that my husband’s upbringing was different. His family is more conservative than mine. While hugs and kisses are allowed with most of his relatives, outward displays of affection are not the norm. They show affection in other ways for sure but not so much physically.
I decided that there is no world in which I won’t exuberantly hug and kiss my children and receive those hugs and kisses from them anytime. Being outwardly affectionate is how my husband and I treat each other. So this is how we treat our kids as well.
Our kids are the same. Our daughter will mostly prefer cheek kisses with me but she will kiss her dad on the mouth. Our son will kiss his dad on the head or cheek mostly but he always plants his kisses right on my mouth.
Different strokes for different folks
It just goes to show that it really is “different strokes for different folks”.
At the end of the day, mom shaming is not cool. If you think it is inappropriate to kiss your children on the mouth then please don’t do it.
I however, will kiss my children on their mouths, on their foreheads, on their bellies, on their feet and any other bits that they would let me for as long as they will let me and so will their dad.
In just a few years time they might not want any PDA (public displays of affection) from us and that will make this momma very sad.
Hugs and kisses (on the mouth or anywhere) is also my way of showing them love and affection. I’ve seen in too many children the effects of a lack of affection and I want my children to know without a shadow of a doubt that they are loved.
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I don’t think it’s inappropriate to kiss your children on the mouth but that’s just me. Please share your opinion in the comments.