I’ve had the awesome privilege of being featured in a makeover by HungUp magazine recently which forced me to confront some deep-rooted insecurities about my new fuller figure.
Editor, Laverne Vermeulen, introduced me to the idea of shopping for clothes that fit well as opposed to trying on your previously worn smaller sizes and then feeling like crap when nothing fits right!
At first I balked at the idea of trying on bigger sizes or garments that were designed for curves. Laverne explained to me the importance of always looking our best at the size we are currently at and getting our mind set out of the past or future versions of ourselves. Once I was able to get real and have a proper look in the mirror, I tried on her suggestions and the fit was slimming and made me look and feel amazing!
It felt so good to wear clothes that complimented my body and made me feel sexy again! I was horrified at having to model a plus-sized dress until I saw the results in the mirror of wearing a dress that was cleverly designed for the fuller figure and of wearing snug clothes in my own current size.
In her TED talk “Plus size? More Like My Size“, plus sized model Ashley Graham talks about her struggle with overcoming others’ opinion of her body. She discusses body image, beauty and self-worth. In a funny monologue in-front of a mirror, she calls out each of her body parts (cellulite and back fat included) and declares her love for them.
She talks about how she deals with people judging her full-figure as a model and encourages women to redefine their opinion of what beauty is.
She tells women to love every part of their body and to embrace their natural body shape. She feels the term “plus size” is labeling and degrading in some ways and believes beauty is beyond size, and would prefer to be a woman making a difference in people’s lives instead of only focusing on their body image.
In my journey with weight gain I can identify with a lot of what Ashley Graham is saying and I would encourage you to watch the full video.
You are what you think you are
As a woman who gets asked quite a lot about my weight by supposed loved ones, I sometimes get very down on myself. One day I had an epiphany…
You are what you think you are, not what they say you are!
According to model Ashley Graham, the plus sizes according to industry starts at size 8! Which means that half of the skinny people you know can be considered to be plus sized.
“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” – Buddha
If you can block out any negative comments about your body from other people who have not walked a mile in your shoes, you can look in the mirror honestly and accept yourself for the person you currently are, whichever size that may be. Once you start changing your own attitude about yourself you will begin to dress better, eat healthier and generally be a happier woman!
Let’s be each others’ cheerleaders
As women we understand best how any negative comment can chip away at our self-esteem. And how our whole day improves when someone notices a positive difference in us, especially when we’ve made an effort with our appearance!
Over to you
The month of August is Women’s Month in South Africa. Let’s make an extra effort to compliment the woman we meet this month on their appearance. Try to find something nice to say but be very sincere about it. You might just turn their whole day around and help them to also develop a much healthier self-image!