I was very inspired when I read this charming article by Sarah Driscoll called “Rules for Mothers of Daughters“. As the mother of a daughter I am determined to be a good role-model, her best friend, her confidant and her inspiration too. Alexandra emulates me in everything she does and that motivates me to be a woman worthy of her adoration.
A daughter is a mother’s gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self. And mothers are their daughters’ role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all their relationships. – Victoria Secunda
At the age of four there are many ways that we can bond and many things that we do together. It’s so much fun introducing my daughter to all the nice things that a lady can enjoy in life and it’s especially fun for me to have a female companion to do these things with. I would encourage any mothers of daughters to just enjoy their time together especially while their daughters are young. By spending time with her you will be forging a friendship that will last for a lifetime and you will assert yourself as the primary influence over her and thus guide her to become the woman she is meant to be.
Ways for mothers and daughters to bond:
Give her a healthy self-esteem
I can see first-hand how my daughter is influenced by my attitude towards her and myself. So I make sure to show her that I am a self-confident and strong woman. I work hard to achieve my goals and I try my best to look respectable and love myself.
You need to tell your daughter everyday how beautiful she is and show her how to embrace her own unique style. Ask for her opinion when you shop for her clothing and guide her choices. Also explain to her how her body will change like yours as she gets older.
While Alexandra is thrilled that she will one day be a lady just like mommy, she hopes to never to grow boobs!
Have a mother and daughter photoshoot
Have a professional take photos of you and you daughter at least once a year. Your daughter will feel so special with the opportunity for you both to get dressed up and treated to a girls only photo shoot!
I try to do this every year with my daughter. The most treasured pictures are the ones that show a bit of our silly personalities like the picture above!
Paint her nails
We love to paint our nails and we do it very often. I have a colorful collection of nail polish which include various shades of pink, neon colors, pastel colors and even outrageous colors.
Our nail regime usually includes me pushing our cuticles back with rosewood sticks, buffing our nails and applying then applying our nail polish. Once the polish is dry I apply some cuticle oil for us both as a finishing touch. She really loves the fact that it’s a whole treatment and that this time is strictly for girls only.
As a woman it’s so much fun to accessorize and this is even more true for little girls. Allowing your daughter to “borrow” your accessories will make her feel like a real little lady.
As a crafter I enjoy using my hands to make pretty things and some Saturdays are spent blissfully crafting accessories. As any little girl would, Alexandra loves to play with my ribbons and buttons. She also has her own set of knitting needles and while she has obviously not mastered this skill yet she enjoys us “knitting” together even if she just wraps the wool around her needles.
Watch a chick-flick
Tinkerbell, Barbie, Frozen and Disney classics like The Frog and The Princess – these are all movies you can enjoy watching at home with your daughter. Make a big bowl of popcorn and you and your daughter can enjoy some one-on-one time on the bed with a “chick flick”.
Tea parties and coffee dates
Whether at a coffee shop or on her bedroom floor, have an occasional tea party or coffee date with your daughter. Our tea parties include little biscuits or sandwiches that we set on a tray with napkins and a pot of tea. We then have a good chat about whatever interests a four year old. A conversation with any four year old is always highly entertaining.
Be silly together
Act silly with your daughter! She is your female companion to enjoy spending time with. We sometimes wear the boys’ clothes (picture me in dad’s clothes and her in big brothers’), hide their toothbrushes and glam ourselves up in sequins and make-up for a stay in day.
They are only children for a short time so it’s good to have silly childish fun before the tween and teenage years re upon us (eek!).
The important thing is that you spend loads of quality time with her during her formative years to establish a solid friendship that she will depend on when she is older.
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I am very interested to find out more ways that I can bond with my daughter so please leave a comment below and tell me how you spend time with your daughter?