Plus sized? More like my size!

Plus size? More Like My Size!

I’ve had the awesome privilege of being featured in a makeover by HungUp magazine recently which forced me to confront some deep-rooted insecurities about my new fuller figure.


Editor, Laverne Vermeulen, introduced me to the idea of shopping for clothes that fit well as opposed to trying on your previously worn smaller sizes and then feeling like crap when nothing fits right!

At first I balked at the idea of trying on bigger sizes or garments that were designed for curves. Laverne explained to me the importance of always looking our best at the size we are currently at and getting our mind set out of the past or future versions of ourselves. Once I was able to get real and have a proper look in the mirror, I tried on her suggestions and the fit was slimming and made me look and feel amazing!

Makeover 2

It felt so good to wear clothes that complimented my body and made me feel sexy again! I was horrified at having to model a plus-sized dress until I saw the results in the mirror of wearing a dress that was cleverly designed for the fuller figure and of wearing snug clothes in my own current size.

Redefining beauty

In her TED talk “Plus size? More Like My Size“, plus sized model Ashley Graham talks about her struggle with overcoming others’ opinion of her body. She discusses body image, beauty and self-worth. In a funny monologue in-front of a mirror, she calls out each of her body parts (cellulite and back fat included) and declares her love for them.

She talks about how she deals with people judging her full-figure as a model and encourages women to redefine their opinion of what beauty is.

She tells women to love every part of their body and to embrace their natural body shape. She feels the term “plus size” is labeling and degrading in some ways and believes beauty is beyond size, and would prefer to be a woman making a difference in people’s lives instead of only focusing on their body image.

In my journey with weight gain I can identify with a lot of what Ashley Graham is saying and I would encourage you to watch the full video.

You are what you think you are

As a woman who gets asked quite a lot about my weight by supposed loved ones, I sometimes get very down on myself. One day I had an epiphany…

You are what you think you are, not what they say you are!

Makeover 1

According to model Ashley Graham, the plus sizes according to industry starts at size 8! Which means that half of the skinny people you know can be considered to be plus sized.

 “The mind is everything. What you think you become.” – Buddha

If you can block out any negative comments about your body from other people who have not walked a mile in your shoes, you can look in the mirror honestly and accept yourself for the person you currently are, whichever size that may be. Once you start changing your own attitude about yourself you will begin to dress better, eat healthier and generally be a happier woman!

Let’s be each others’ cheerleaders

As women we understand best how any negative comment can chip away at our self-esteem. And how our whole day improves when someone notices a positive difference in us, especially when we’ve made an effort with our appearance!

Over to you

The month of August is Women’s Month in South Africa. Let’s make an extra effort to compliment the woman we meet this month on their appearance. Try to find something nice to say but be very sincere about it. You might just turn their whole day around and help them to also develop a much healthier self-image!



Anthea O'Neill is a wife and proud mom of three. She is front-end web developer, blogger and a self-proclaimed glitter & yarn addict. Anthea's Project Life is a blog for the modern mom.

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  1. Thanks for sharing this video. I have struggled with my weight for 30 years, and go up and down constantly. “My size!”–love it! I also really appreciated your comment, “Try to find something nice to say but be very sincere about it. ” Hair, makeup, earrings, dress, shoes, overall look–you can always find something sincere to compliment every woman on! The one comment, even though sincere from some people, is “Oh you lost so much weight” when really I’m just wearing a very slimming dress! I feel as if all they noticed before was my weight! And the worst comment I just got a few months ago when I returned to the U.S. for a visit after living in the Netherlands for 8 months, was “Oh, I thought you’d be slimmer since you’re doing so much biking!” I just commented with, “Oh, I’m still doing a lot of eating too!”

    1. Anthea says:

      I know Michele, sometimes people are not always sensitive with their weight comments and it really stings! I’m hoping that in listening to Ashley’s testimony we can all decide to block all of the haters out and focus on ourselves, embracing our bodies bumps and curves and all. I believe that there is beauty in every woman because God does not make mistakes and delights in our differences! Also having been on the receiving end of many such weight comments as what you got, we can be more sensitive ourselves of other women.

  2. Carolyn Augustus says:

    You look absolutely stunning! Love the article.

    1. Anthea says:

      Ah thanks Carolyn!

  3. Such a lovely post. You look gorgeous! Thank you for the inspiration 🙂

    1. Anthea says:

      Thank you Ruby!

  4. Great post, I am also plus size, and what annoys me more than anything is that exercise clothing (with one or two exceptions) only have smaller sizes and the XL is a uk size 12/14!!

    1. Anthea says:

      Argh! I know what you mean! I practically live in yoga pants because they are so stretchy.

  5. When you said “shopping for clothes that fit” at first I read “photoshopping for clothes that fit”. ‘Just shows how obsessed we’ve become with creating the perfect body image. While I don’t fit into the plus size category myself, I agree with the notion that a woman’s worth shouldn’t be connected to the number written on the tag of her jeans.

    1. Anthea says:

      We are so much more than our body size! We all have value, unique personalities, humor, usefulness, that does not really get determined by our physical appearance I agree!

  6. You are so right about us being what we think. We can produce a self fulfilling prophesy alright. I’m here with my Pom poms for the cheerleading!

    1. Anthea says:

      All about the attitude!

  7. trenna says:

    Nicely done. It is definitely an issues that should be addressed.

    1. Anthea says:

      Thank you Trenna!

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